A wedding day is one of the most meaningful moments in life. They are filled with love, joy, and unique traditions that highlight a couple's story. For those in Australia planning a wedding ceremony, it's essential to carefully consider the details that will make it personal whilst also ensuring all legal obligations are met. This post will guide you through my suggested ceremony structure to keep the service flowing in a natural and engaging way that includes all the vital elements, from the welcome to the final exit.
Welcome and Housekeeping
The ceremony begins with a warm welcome. Typically, I will kick things off by thanking the guests for being there. This is also an ideal time to address housekeeping reminders, like turning off mobile phones or any special rules from the venue.
The welcome moment is key for fostering a sense of community among all guests celebrating you (I'm mindful that for larger weddings, not everyone knows each other).
I also like to throw them a little compliment on their fit and if the weather calls for it, a mention to stay cool/dry/warm etc along with hydrating (it's a good idea to have a little water nearby your ceremony location).
Aisle Walk (Processional)
The aisle walk, or processional, marks a significant transition from single life to married life. Traditionally, the bridal party enters, often accompanied by meaningful music. Please let me know if you'd like your guests to be standing for this moment...
Couples can personalise their ceremony entry in various ways. For instance, if the bride walks down the aisle alone, it symbolizes independence. Conversely, walking together or being escorted by a family member reflects support and unity. Whatever resonates most with you is the right way.
Also ensure that you select specific songs that are meaningful and enhance the emotional weight of this moment. Live music is a great option; however, I will use my PA for larger weddings and can play pre-recorded tracks through this also via Bluetooth. If you need any song suggestions, just let me know!
Celebrant's Introduction
Once seated, I introduce myself and state that I am authorised to solemnise the ceremony today - where relevant I might state how I know you and of course will always thank you for giving me the privilege to marry you!
Storytelling
One of the most memorable parts of the ceremony is storytelling. Here, couples can recount their journey—highlighting shared experiences, challenges you have faced, and what you love and appreciate most about each other.
Sharing personal anecdotes, like your first holiday together, how one partner supported the other through a difficult time, what you hope for in your future and what marriage means to you. A notable study indicates that weddings that include personal stories engage guests and foster deeper emotional connections, with attendees feeling more invested in the couple's relationship.
READINGS/POEMS
Should you wish to incorporate these, select something meaningful to you, for someone close to you to read aloud. This is always a nice way to include someone special that doesn't have another formal role in your day.
Please ensure that the reader opens by stating the author and title of the piece they are sharing. If you'd like some suggestions, just let me know - I have a food goodies!
Note: This isn't essential to include and isn't suggested for those wanting a short and sweet ceremony.
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This is essential legal wording that must be included at some point in the ceremony, and I personally like to break it up until after your story telling, just to keep the mood light.
I will state as follows:
Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter.
Marriage, according to the law in Australia, is the union of two people to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.
"The Asking" (I Do's)
This segment typically features the celebrant asking the couple if they are ready to embrace their vows, leading into the iconic "I do."
These simple words encapsulate everything the couple is committing to and form a key moment filled with emotion. It's often met with applause and excitement from guests, amplifying the couple's joy.
Exchange of Vows
The exchange of vows is one of the most significant parts of the ceremony. Each partner expresses their love, promises, and commitments to one another. There are also legal words required for every ceremony to be binding in Australia. For the most natural flow, I recommend stating these before your own spoken vows, they are as follows:
"I call upon the persons/people here present to witness that I: NAME take thee NAME to be my lawful wedding wife/husband/spouse"
Vows can be traditional or personal, adding intimacy to the ceremony (see my other blog post for more ideas on this). For instance, you might vow to support each other’s dreams and ambitions, support each other through sickness, stay loyal through the tough days (yes, we all have them!). Engaging in such declarations fosters a supportive environment for your relationship and can be something for you two to hold onto and reflect on with each new year.
Note: I have my custom vow folders so you can hold these each and read from here. If you prefer to be prompted and hold hands during this moment instead that's fine too!
Symbols
Typically, the exchange of wedding rings follows the vows. This act symbolises unity and commitment. This is not essential, and some people may opt for their own unique symbol to replace this (I'm kiwi and my now husband and I opted to exchange our already gifted Pounamu, a taonga or treasure made of jade in place of rings)
Choose a symbol that feels fitting for your relationship and something that will resonate throughout the years. This exchange not only signifies the promises made but also serves as a tangible reminder of your ongoing journey together.
Signing of the Registry
After exchanging vows and rings, the couple signs the registry. Please select one or two songs to be played in this moment, as guests are encouraged to chat among themselves.
The registry signing formalises your marriage and must include two witnesses over 18 that are present for the full ceremony. Witnesses can be chosen before the day, during the ceremony or even be your photographer and driver if you're eloping!
There are three documents to sign - two are your Official Certificate of Marriage (one I keep, the other to go back to the BDM of the state your marry in) and a further commemorative certificate for you as a keepsake.
Note - you can sign the registry after the ceremony if you prefer to keep things moving, just please ensure not to rush off for photos before we do!
Pronouncement and First Kiss
With legalities taken care of, I have the honour and joy to now pronounce you as officially married!! This announcement is often met with cheers and applause (encouraged by me!), leading to your first kiss as newlyweds. Please let me know whether you prefer to use a new/joined surname in this pronouncement
This pivotal moment is filled with joy and celebration. Please allow me to step out of the way so your photographers can get some epic snaps!
Exit (Recessional)
As the ceremony wraps up, the couple prepares for their exit down the aisle, known as the recessional. Guests often shower the couple with confetti or flower petals, symbolising happiness and new beginnings. You might like a special song for this moment too.
During the exit, you may wish to throw in a little aisle dip (great for pics), toss your bouquet or just gather everyone together for a group shot before everyone moves to the next formality i.e. cocktail hour!!
Final Thoughts
Creating a structured and memorable wedding ceremony involves careful planning. By following the suggested format—from welcoming guests to the celebratory exit—you can ensure that every part resonates with you and your loved ones.
Each element contributes to a unique experience that celebrates love, commitment, and family. By paying closer attention to these beautiful details, you can ensure that your wedding ceremony becomes an intimate and memorable tribute to your love story.
Logistics to consider:
Water available on arrival or right after ceremony
Shade or umbrellas for hot or drizzly days
A signing table and two chairs (or make something up for fun pics!)
Welcome Sign
A wet weather backup (yes, even in summer)
Do you need a PA? This is included for my Kind of a Big Deal and Married By A Mate packages (or add $100 hire fee for a smaller ceremony to play tracks through)
